CARL,
A 23 YEAR OLD PROFESSIONAL BASKETBALL PLAYER, contacted me one month after
surgery to repair a meniscus tear. He was frustrated and discouraged, in large
part because he had joined a new club where he expected to have more playing
time, and generally looked to this to be a breakout season for him.
Having
been away from playing for a month, he felt disheartened as he watched his
teammates making progress and feeling like he would never catch up.
THE
FIRST THING I WANTED TO HELP CARL WITH WAS TO CHANGE HIS ATTITUDE AND FEELINGS
from discouraged to hopeful. He had many weeks of rehab ahead of him before he
was likely to return to the basketball court and if he couldn’t see the “light
at the end of the tunnel” he would have a pretty tough time. So we talked about the progress he had made
since he began his rehab work a few weeks ago. He told me things had gone
rather well… in fact he was already running and going harder and further each
day.
I
suggested he write down once each week the progress he had made that week so
that he could not only reflect on feelings of accomplishment, but also after
three or four weeks he would be able to see an accumulation of successes which
would really help him feel encouraged.
Beyond that, a series of successes would be a great source of motivation
to keep working – even though he had many more weeks to go. (As the saying
goes, “nothing succeeds like success.”)
I
ALSO EXPLAINED TO CARL THAT BY SETTING WEEKLY GOALS it would make things more manageable for him than the larger goal
of returning to playing condition. Smaller goals that we can reach in shorter
periods of time offer a greater sense of control than a single large goal whose
accomplishment is a long way off, and when we feel in control we are more able
to take action.
THE
SECOND THING WE TALKED ABOUT WAS USING VISUALIZATION and three ways it could
help him:
(1) To picture
performing the rehab exercises properly and effectively. This can help an
athlete get the maximum benefit from when he does the exercises by managing
complete focus rather than just going through the motions. Sometimes it can help an athlete to envision
achieving greater range of motion in his mind than he is actually able to
execute which can in turn speed up the rate of his progress in that respect.
(2) To use
visualization to picture some of his best moves and games from before he was
injured, which can help him remain positive and confident about his game during
this period when he cannot actually play.
(3) To use
visualization as a way of envisioning the moves and skills he needs to work on
in a way that is available to him during his time of injury. When the American
football player Michael Vick was in prison he spent time visualizing the plays
as a way of staying ready to play. As he told the Wall Street Journal, “I was
locked down for 23 hours of the day with only one hour to go out and walk
around the yard. I used the time visualizing myself coming back and doing great
things.” Other athletes also report successfully using visualization to
simulate the kind of training they are unable to physically engage in, paving
the way to a much quicker comeback once they are cleared to train and compete
once more.
THE THIRD THING WE DISCUSSED WAS HOW TO
BEST KEEP CONNECTED WITH THE TEAM PRACTICES EVEN THOUGH HE COULDN’T BE OUT ON
THE COURT. Carl told me that this also
was very frustrating for him, as he watched his teammates working and improving
while he sat on the sidelines. Of course it is much easier to learn and
practice moves when you can actually do them, but it was important for Carl not
to throw up his hands in frustration because he couldn’t do that. Most of us would find it hard to keep a high
degree of focus at practice in those conditions, but I asked Carl if he thought
he could maintain total focus for five minutes, and he told me he could. I
asked if he could maintain high focus for 10 minutes and he said he could do
that too. Also, he agreed that he could keep his focus for 15 minutes.
The point here is that trying to stay
focused for a full two-hour practice when watching from the sidelines might be
a daunting challenge, but doing this for 15 minutes is very “do-able.” I told
Carl that if he could do this for three or four days in a row before long he
would find himself able to stay focused for 20 minutes and soon for 30 minutes,
and so on.
AND ONE LAST POINT I discussed with Carl to
keep in mind during this period that can be highly frustrating. In such
circumstance, friends and family want to help and often offer suggestions that
may or may not be welcome … things like “Have you tried… ?” or “You should …”
or “Why don’t you …?” Such suggestions
and advice may originate more in the needs of the giver to feel helpful than in
what the injured athlete is ready to find actually helpful. For many of us,
this only adds to the frustration (these “suggestions” sometimes make us feel
like the other person thinks it’s so easy, and all you have to do is
__________.) Of course, if you find such suggestions helpful that is great, but
sometimes we find benefit in handling things in our own time and fashion. While
we should be wary of indulging in self-pity, we all get to the point where we
just want someone to know how frustrated we are without feeling that they have
to either help us solve our problems or make us feel better. I told Carl if he could find one person who
would allow him to just “vent” – to just listen when he needed to share his
frustrations without feeling the need to respond, he might find it helpful.
While keeping in mind the critical importance of doing the work that will help
you heal as quickly as possible and return to playing condition, a certain
measure of “grieving” is not inappropriate. And just as mourners may find such
comments as “God needed your wife/mother/sister, etc more than you do” to be
unwelcome even if well-intentioned, the same thing might apply to similarly
well-meaning comments (e.g., “Look on the bright side… ) made by friends and
family. As in all things, a measure of
proportion is always suitable.
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